Grief I have found is like spaghetti. There is a whole lot going on with a plate full and you don’t know which strands to start with first. What I mean by that is every strand is a different issue in your grieving whether it be the loss of a loved one or a friend. The size pile could represent how many years where you in each others lives. There is also on what terms did you leave things when they departed. How the spaghetti tastes could be how much you enjoyed your time together because delicious spaghetti is something you like to have all the time.
How big of a bite of this plate full of issues are you going to take and does it all make sense. This is what I am dealing with is how do I address all of it. One bite at a time makes the most sense but there is frustration and how do you cope with it.
The picture above is plain spaghetti it’s when you add sauce and cheese is when it could become something different indeed. I hope this all makes sense.