Sometimes the tongue needs a bandage because it’s being bitten as to not say anything to argue or cause conflict.
How you feel is how you feel. Your feelings are uniquely yours and how you feel in the moment is nothing to be embarrassed about. Feelings are complex and they are fluid. Putting on a brave face isn’t doing yourself any favors and for those to expect you to isn’t very kind. I am learning how to be be genuine with how I feel and to express it to those who I am connected with. The best thing anyone can do is to be supportive and encouraging.