Something About A Southern Funeral

I am in Thomaston, Georgia for the funeral of my aunt Dorothy or “Dot” as she was known by family and friends. We got here around 6:15 after enduring the awful Atlanta, Georgia traffic which is notoriously horrible.

When we got to my aunt’s house tonight we were greeted by family who were sure to feed us in the tradition of many families around the world when there is a death in the family. Now in the south it’s about fried chicken, the sides and deserts. Food is synonymous with coming together as family to remember and to reconnect. In the south when you are sick or a family member passes traditionally ones community comes to the side of those who survive. Gifts of food among other things are offered to ease the loss. Blessed are those who mourn as it says in scripture.

You know it shouldn’t take death to bring people back together in times like this. However for many family comes with complications that unfortunately cannot be overcome even in the passing of a loved one.

Dot’s funeral is on a Saturday in January at her church where she was a member for a very long time. This is the same church where her mother, my great-grandmother’s funeral was held fourteen years ago.

Her devotion to God was/is shown by her hospitality and love for family and friends. She lived a great life, a long life, a life that will be remembered.

A funeral is more than mourning the dead it can be a family reunion too. Sometimes that family is biological or chosen from your tribe of friends. It’s amazing how you can reconnect and renew the ties of family that bind you.

I know that Dot is with her mother, father, brother and sister in the company of saints above. For me I am grateful of these people’s impact on my life and how I know that life does go on in the hearts and minds who continue a legacy.

A quote I like is “Live your life so the preacher won’t have to lie at your funeral” so for Dot she has nothing to worry about.


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Tony "T-Bird" Burgess

Hi there, my name is Tony Burgess from Chattanooga, Tennessee, USA. I am a believer, bleeding-heart, idealist and blogger. I'm married to Laura and Cody is our dog. Daily I work for a blood bank. My blog is where I chronicle and curate the sacred, serious and silly things in my life. I am a member of The Episcopal Church. Thank you for connecting with me. Grace, peace, and love!

6 thoughts on “Something About A Southern Funeral”

  1. You aunt ‘Dot’ sounds like she was a lot like my grandmother Dorothy ‘Dot’ she was God-fearing and loved by the entire community. I love Southern funerals, they’re like funerals we have back home. Family from all four corners come together to reminisce over meals and family stories. You’re right, a funeral is more about mourning the dead and family is everything and it does not always mean you’re blood-related.

    Sincere condolences to you and your family!

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  2. Tony I just loved to read this Post as it sends messages to life in positive ways. Though the death of of Aunt Dot (Dorothy) gives opportunity to mourn her life seems to have been honest and blessed. Blessed are we to talk about her. The Beautiful quote you have quoted last that about the preacher who will not lie at the funeral is Awesome.
    I could observe the traditions what the southerners keep in your country. Yes it is true that it is always a gathering of family. The dead bring back the ties and their messages to all.
    I have done one post long back…”Active Participation during Funeral and Death”..
    May her Soul rest in Peace.
    She is among the Greats beside her.


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