There is a saying that Cleopatra is the Queen of Denial (a take off of The Nile River) and most people are in denial about something in their lives. We don’t want to admit anything is wrong or something is not going to happen that will impact our lives. Denial isn’t a healthy thing because we don’t want to recognize that there are things in our lives that are not as they seem and should be. People get into a cycle of denial where they are living in a state of belief that nothing is wrong. Reality can kill denial and force us all to admit there is something that we need to take care of lest it harms us mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
Everyone is lazy about something or another. We put things off for another time. Later is when we choose to deal with something important like bill paying or taxes or life choices. I say I will take care of that later but you know later comes when you least expect it and that thing you said you would take care of doesn’t get taken care of. Later is a future point in time but it’s also when we forget because other things have come along to distract us.
What is truly sad is when we say we will see someone later but later comes and goes or later never comes.
Do things now, see people now. Later isn’t always guaranteed.
Having just been sick you have to find out what your symptoms are to determine what illness you have. Symptoms can be just the tip of the iceberg in figuring out what is going on. These indicators present themselves in different ways but if you ignore them for too long they can become a serious problem. You gotta be careful in self diagnosing some things because they could be something else so getting help is a good thing.
I am a people pleaser, It’s a part of who I am. Acceptance is something many strive for because we want to be liked. I know what having a low self-esteem is like and I want to be sure others in my life are accepted for who they are. We live in a world where people are seeking community and connections so acceptance is vital to making them feel wanted and needed, I know I am.
Love and inclusion are in my mind essential parts of being human. As Sally Field once said in her Academy Awards acceptance speech “you like me, you really like me” and that is so important to be liked. I would also say don’t do something against your better angels in order to fit into a crowd that would be harmful, that’s not good for you.
Canned goods, clothing, hardware, makeup most everything you buy has a label to it. A label can tell the story of something you are buying. Humans have labels, some are pretty accurate while others can unfairly characterize someone based on looks, nationality, religion or something else. Everyone labels everyone else, it’s just a fact of life. Sometimes labels are accurate while other times it can be cruel and unkind and false. No one wants to be labeled or judged but we all do it whether it be subconsciously or overtly. To label someone isn’t good because unlike a hammer, human beings have feelings, emotions and a heart that is easily broken.
Everything has some form of instinct. Something that is part of their nature that helps them decide what to do or where to go. What you have inside you helps you navigate all the things that life throws at you. Sometimes instincts are developed and trained but for many its just part of their DNA. Through learned wisdom and a gut feeling you are informed to do things that make sense to you. Animals seem to use instincts very well as a survival mechanism and humans to a lesser extent do the same. Having good instincts can help you make it through not only the day but throughout your life.