I am reminded of so many stories in life where amazing things are done when people are welcomed. Hospitality means a lot and it can change the world. Making people feel at home and comforted can go a long way in building relationships and promoting peace. In scripture Jesus welcomed many and was welcomed into homes to share a meal and his ideas. In so many religions hospitality is an important part of what they are about. Today hospitality is an industry with hotels, motels and people renting out a room so someone has a roof over their head for a night or more. It’s good to be hospitable but it goes both ways. Never wear out your welcome and do your part to make others feel affirmed and secure. Always make room at the inn and at the table.
Everyone likes to have control over a situation, mainly their lives. Giving up any control can be very disturbing to some. We all know a control freak out there who wants to manage every single aspect of their world including other people. The idea of having that much power is very concerning. Sure we like to keep the ball in our court and to have complete say so in life but its truly impossible. Forces out of our control determine daily our fate. Decisions are made in mysterious places that can determine what happens in our lives. Giving up some control can be freeing and will relieve massive amounts of stress but the reverse can be true too.
There is a saying that Cleopatra is the Queen of Denial (a take off of The Nile River) and most people are in denial about something in their lives. We don’t want to admit anything is wrong or something is not going to happen that will impact our lives. Denial isn’t a healthy thing because we don’t want to recognize that there are things in our lives that are not as they seem and should be. People get into a cycle of denial where they are living in a state of belief that nothing is wrong. Reality can kill denial and force us all to admit there is something that we need to take care of lest it harms us mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
Everyone is lazy about something or another. We put things off for another time. Later is when we choose to deal with something important like bill paying or taxes or life choices. I say I will take care of that later but you know later comes when you least expect it and that thing you said you would take care of doesn’t get taken care of. Later is a future point in time but it’s also when we forget because other things have come along to distract us.
What is truly sad is when we say we will see someone later but later comes and goes or later never comes.
Do things now, see people now. Later isn’t always guaranteed.
Having just been sick you have to find out what your symptoms are to determine what illness you have. Symptoms can be just the tip of the iceberg in figuring out what is going on. These indicators present themselves in different ways but if you ignore them for too long they can become a serious problem. You gotta be careful in self diagnosing some things because they could be something else so getting help is a good thing.
I am a people pleaser, It’s a part of who I am. Acceptance is something many strive for because we want to be liked. I know what having a low self-esteem is like and I want to be sure others in my life are accepted for who they are. We live in a world where people are seeking community and connections so acceptance is vital to making them feel wanted and needed, I know I am.
Love and inclusion are in my mind essential parts of being human. As Sally Field once said in her Academy Awards acceptance speech “you like me, you really like me” and that is so important to be liked. I would also say don’t do something against your better angels in order to fit into a crowd that would be harmful, that’s not good for you.