I am a people pleaser, It’s a part of who I am. Acceptance is something many strive for because we want to be liked. I know what having a low self-esteem is like and I want to be sure others in my life are accepted for who they are. We live in a world where people are seeking community and connections so acceptance is vital to making them feel wanted and needed, I know I am.
Love and inclusion are in my mind essential parts of being human. As Sally Field once said in her Academy Awards acceptance speech “you like me, you really like me” and that is so important to be liked. I would also say don’t do something against your better angels in order to fit into a crowd that would be harmful, that’s not good for you.
Canned goods, clothing, hardware, makeup most everything you buy has a label to it. A label can tell the story of something you are buying. Humans have labels, some are pretty accurate while others can unfairly characterize someone based on looks, nationality, religion or something else. Everyone labels everyone else, it’s just a fact of life. Sometimes labels are accurate while other times it can be cruel and unkind and false. No one wants to be labeled or judged but we all do it whether it be subconsciously or overtly. To label someone isn’t good because unlike a hammer, human beings have feelings, emotions and a heart that is easily broken.
Everything has some form of instinct. Something that is part of their nature that helps them decide what to do or where to go. What you have inside you helps you navigate all the things that life throws at you. Sometimes instincts are developed and trained but for many its just part of their DNA. Through learned wisdom and a gut feeling you are informed to do things that make sense to you. Animals seem to use instincts very well as a survival mechanism and humans to a lesser extent do the same. Having good instincts can help you make it through not only the day but throughout your life.
When you want to experience something fully and completely you immerse yourself into the things that will inform and change you. There are things that require you dive into the deep end of the pool. So often we find ourselves becoming one with the subject matter at hand as to give us deeper insights and life changing information. To learn something new you have to have an immersion experience so that you will pick up on it quickly.
We all have habits. Things we do as a routine. Life is a pattern of activity where people can be predictable. A pattern can be a blueprint in making something too where you have to abide by boundaries and directions. Following a pattern can lead to success or lead to being in a rut.
The uncertainty of the world has everyone on edge. Our nerves can only take so much. We all have been nervous about something or another. We have all waited for something we really wanted and we were not sure we were going to get it. Perhaps it was the results of a test that could determine a school grade or our quality of life. There is an element of fear in being nervous because it involved the unknown and a level of anxiety about where things are going to go in the future. Nervousness is a legit emotion and feeling at times it is something you have to feel and experience.
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