Style vs. substance. Performance over polish. Chocolate or vanilla. Pepsi or Coke.
In life there are things we must consider when making a decision. You could use one of those Venn diagrams to help you make your decision or just use a gut instinct. Either way you must have the facts lined up in order to make up your mind and hope for the best. This is where the rubber meets the road of adulting.
No matter what you decide you have to figure out what is the best for your situation at the time. The diagram above indicates that you might be able to have the best of both worlds but often times that isn’t so easy. Whatever is in your head can conquer what your heart wants. Checks and balances also play into every decision.
Whatever you have to decide take time for discernment, discussion and consultation before making a choice. Yes we all want A & B but sometimes C is where we should go.
Understanding can build bridges and connections where as shaming is about destruction of spirit and soul. I think people need to be more sensitive to the plight of others and that their circumstances are sometimes out of their control. We live in a very diverse world where no two people encounter life in an identical way. Opening your heart and mind can go a long way into creating peace both communally and individually. Maybe this is the door to peace?
All of us spend a good amount of our lives waiting on something or someone. There are times we find ourselves hanging out in places like this. Somewhat uncomfortable chairs, vending machines and free coffee are standard equipment to help keep you comfortable or something like that. Patience is indeed a virtue when you are holding close to a loved one during a time of convalescing and healing. The waiting can be the hardest part though.
I am a believer in family. Sometimes a family is not always what has been considered traditional, you know the husband and wife with 2.5 kids, the nuclear family that has been so sought after in the past. We live in a time when family is sometimes chosen, adopted and same gender. Several couples I know fit the non-traditional family unit and without doubt there is love and connection there. I can say that those good people I know are blessed to have each other.
A family can be a couple, a couple with kids, a couple with fur kids or a group of friends who have a serious bond with one another. In my mind it’s all good. Family can keep you sane and it can keep you accountable. Not everyone has a family unit they can fully rely on so they need support from friends and others to help keep them going.
You know its great when you have that support and that affection and those couples have it. One specific couple is going through some things today and it looks like one spouse will be on the mend after some serious surgery. It is good that they had the right to marry so they could be secure in making decisions for one another in case of impairment plus health care and spousal rights.
So, no matter what the family looks like its theirs and it is very unique and its special. Family is something that matters and will carry our world and its communities forward. Celebrate the family no matter what it might look like because we need more love in the world.
Titles are words but they have meaning and the weight of responsibility behind them. When you have a title it means you have achieved something, you have moved upwards. A title means you have been affirmed by those who have noticed you have worked hard and are doing good things.
Some titles are earned by competition against your peers like in civic life or athletics. People work hard to have the title of champion, best in show, best actor/actress or something that elevates you. One’s self-esteem can be impacted by that sort of thing.
Your resume is boosted by having titles that show you have worked your butt off. I have had titles come and go in my life and there is excitement and achievement when you earn them but when they have been stripped away you feel like you have taken steps back.
Of course titles can be what you call something you created. However that is for another post.