The fear of saying something is the fear of saying it wrong. You know what it is to be tongue tied and the awkwardness of making a point without being misunderstood. In your head you rehearse it and it makes sense but when it leaves your mouth you screw it all up. Words are like bullets you can’t take them back easily if at all. Communications are life and if you aren’t able to say what you mean where others can understand then its a serious problem. I struggle with this daily and sometimes it’s a matter of confidence and worry about saying something the right way without offending someone. Life can be difficult when you are trying to say what you mean to say.
The Tony Burgess Blog 
I often struggle with this as well. English not being my native language, I sometimes sound much harsher than I intend.
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Very well said!
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
JELLY BEAN!!!! I KNOW THIS VERY WELL—IT’S WHY I WRITE POETRY—TO GET IT OUT THERE!
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“ORT-ORT-ORT!”
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Great post! This is basically my entire speaking life. I’ve learnt the hard way that there’s no backspace button for my mouth. Thank goodness there’s one on my keyboard. Eek!
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I find I have the best communication when my words come from a place of love. You listen with love to the other person’s point and express yourself from that same vantage. I had to speak with my boss regarding my overwhelming workload and solutions, I decided to try having the conversation from this position of love. It went so well I got resolutions and I felt very proud of myself that I didn’t cave into my fear of not saying something, I made all my points with clarity. I was amazed at how well this worked and will continue to practice this approach.
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Good for you Deb!
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Thanks Tony!
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