REM had a hit song called “Everybody Hurts” back in the day and it’s truer than anyone knows. Sometimes you are hurt and other times you hurt others. We really have no control over how people react to what we say. The most benign of things can impact someone significantly. I try really hard not to say things that wound but it doesn’t always work. There are a lot of people carrying around a lot of baggage and being sensitive to that is kindness but you can never anticipate their reactions to what you say. Grace and information can help preserve relationships. Forgive what is said and then inform why what is being said is hurtful. Maybe thinking twice and saying once would go a long way into advancing love and friendships. Everybody hurts and maybe understanding why would help us all.