Grief I have found is like spaghetti. There is a whole lot going on with a plate full and you don’t know which strands to start with first. What I mean by that is every strand is a different issue in your grieving whether it be the loss of a loved one or a friend. The size pile could represent how many years where you in each others lives. There is also on what terms did you leave things when they departed. How the spaghetti tastes could be how much you enjoyed your time together because delicious spaghetti is something you like to have all the time.
How big of a bite of this plate full of issues are you going to take and does it all make sense. This is what I am dealing with is how do I address all of it. One bite at a time makes the most sense but there is frustration and how do you cope with it.
The picture above is plain spaghetti it’s when you add sauce and cheese is when it could become something different indeed. I hope this all makes sense.
The Tony Burgess Blog 
I’m so sorry for your loss, Tony. Thinking of you and your family.
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Wonderful post Tony. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
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That’s a completely new way to explain it, but if it works for you, go for it! I have less trouble with grief, I think, because of my autism. I can “forget” with insulting ease and speed. Maybe that says I’m just a hard-hearted bastard, or maybe it’s one of the unknown blessings of being autistic. If I let myself do it, I can recall and linger over memories of lost friends and loved ones, though, and grief looks different for every person. I bought two helium balloons, wrote loved ones names on them, took them out to an isolated spot and released the balloons, watching them disappear and then crying like a baby for about an hour – and all this was YEARS after they died! Grief takes time, and it surfaces at weird times. But it won’t be ignored, so let it rush over you and let yourself feel it all – the pain and the joy of good memories – this is one of the ways we are immortal, living on in the memories of those we leave behind.
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Great post, yes it does make sense, a lot of sense!
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