The last year has been strange, painful, difficult. I am grateful for another year of life but it hasn’t been easy. A year ago my dad passed away (on August 24th, 2019) and it was right before I turned 50. This is my second birthday without him and there’s a lot to unpack there in future posts.
I am doing all I want to do to be there for others but I have to focus on me too. Self care is a must for the long haul. This means not holding what I am feeling in.
Turning 51 is weird. Chili Davis said Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional and I agree with this. I still have that child-like wonder about things and as a person who has some years on him, I have some jaded cynicism. Growing up is indeed a choice.
In this next year of living I don’t know what will happen. Life will come at me and I hope it will be better than the last couple of years. My friends I hope to not be a downer but no promises. We shall see.
The Tony Burgess Blog 
Did you seriously just refer to yourself as an OLD PERSON??
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Happy 51 Tony! You are still in the prime of life, with just the right amount of life experience to give you a healthy balance of skepticism and wisdom. Very sorry to hear about your dad. It’s so hard to lose our parents. The grieving process is not finite or linear. 🙏
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Happy Birthday. I can relate to loss. Both my parents, my husband too, are dead. Loss and grieving are hard paths that take us on unexpected journeys. Sometimes there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, sometimes a pile of excrement…
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Happy birthday to you!!!
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I’m still growing up! I don’t blame you if you’re a downer sometimes, no shame in being honest when you’re not feeling happy. I hope your Birthday was Happy, though! 🙂
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It’s hard to miss those we love as we celebrate our own milestones. It does seem that you have many lovely memories of sharing those special times with your father while he was still here and that in itself is a gift. Wishing you a Happy Birthday. 🙂
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Happy Day to you ❤
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Happy 51 and nobody’s old until their soul says so!
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Thank you so much!
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I hope you had a lovely day Tony happy belated birthday.
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Happy 51st birthday! I am a day after you – Virgos have it going on!
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Happy Birthday to you too!
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Thank you!
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