We all get wound up about things in life and that leads to its own problems. People really need to learn how to chill out. For me, learning to relax is not easy. I feel like I have to be doing something, thinking about something and that leads to me sometimes just crashing like a computer or worse. My brain seems to be running all the time, and you know that is not a very good thing especially at night. There are people who say they will sleep when they are dead, but you know I need to sleep so I won’t die. Maybe our high-stress world would be well served by just not sweating the small stuff. Not everyone can relax even if they tried because they need to have control over every situation in their lives. So everyone let’s learn to chill out.
Category Archives: Rambling
Rambling About Paying Attention
I am distracted, we are all perhaps distracted about something in our lives. So much is going on in my head that I am not listening well. Being distracted impacts my relationships with important people in my life. I think we could all agree that we are over stimulated with all sorts of things coming at us. Even when we aren’t using our electronic devices we still find ourselves distracted. Life seems to be more complex than in years past and I am not sure it will get better.
Too many of us are so burdened that we aren’t paying attention to the people that really matter in life. Maybe I need to cut a couple things out or perhaps I need to alter my behavior and learn to prioritize what I am doing in any given moment. I am wondering about how getting older makes it easier to be distracted or not? My friends what is your experience with paying attention, is it harder for you as time goes on, what do you do to focus on the main things in life.
Rambling About Boundaries Online
In life we need boundaries. Buffer zones between people and situations that could do harm. Personal relationships need boundaries too for emotional and physical safety. Some relationships can become inappropriately intimate especially when there are attachments in the mix.
Bloggers need boundaries too. Connections are made daily and there must be respect of the personal situations of one another. I think we can be too open online and that can become a problem in an era when people aren’t so kind. As friendships are made through social media we have to be careful about how friendly we can be.
Form your own best practices but have fun. Don’t let yourself get into a jam online.
Rambling About Keeping Up Appearances
Many British sit com fans remember the show “Keeping Up Appearances” featuring a woman who believes she is above her middle-class existence and often shuns her own family members who are salt of the Earth and who live in their own reality. This woman who alters the pronunciation her last name to sound more impressive has a well kept home with many nice things. She has fine place settings to impress people who who she invites to candlelit suppers. Her life is about hob nobbing with the well-to-do in her community. Her husband is also very long suffering through it all. It’s a funny show and reminds me of how some people will try hard to live above their means.
Many among us put a premium on having the finest in life and to be with people that make us feel higher than our station in life. Everyone keeps up appearances in their lives where they are better than they actually are. Our world has snobs and elitists that perceive that only the best will do. For example one might have gone to a less prestigious school growing up but as an adult they don’t think that same school is good enough for their kids. Socially they try to keep up with the Joneses and will rob Peter to pay Paul so they can have the biggest home on the block.
We all see people like this everywhere we go. I have a little of this in me too, we all do. The problem we have in this life is a lack of humility and making do with what we have. Now I am not saying we can’t have nice things but nice doesn’t mean breaking the bank to afford it.
Life’s passions drive what we do. Our heart is often where our treasure is. Many people work hand to mouth, paycheck to paycheck just for the basics of life. I have been one of those people and to some extent I still am. My friends I am grateful to God for the life I have and the gifts I have been given. Take nothing for granted, love one another, have faith in a cause that means something and be who you are meant to be. Those are the most important ways of keeping up appearances.
A Ramble About The Changing World
The world is changing whether we like it or not. What was new is now old. The good old days were not good for everyone. Gays can get married in this country now and in other countries. There is a person of color who is president of the United States. Your cell phone replaces a lot of different things like your camera and your personal music player. Boys play with dolls and have tea parties while girls wear cammo and drive a pickup truck. Girls have more opportunities to be awesome women. Racism seems to be sticking around although things are getting better. Men stay at home to care for family and children. Women are running big companies and a few have run countries. Some women are even ministers. The old boy network is being shattered daily. Johnny Carson is no longer on the Tonight Show. Netflix is a noun and a verb, so is Google for that matter. Change is hard, even for me. Traditions adapt to modern times. We are a digital world with some analog people. The struggle continues but more and more the world is changing. Are you going to keep up or fall by the way side?
A Ramble About Misunderstanding
When I misunderstand please help me to understand. Its not good when misunderstandings ruin perfectly good friendships. So much drama has been caused by folks who just didn’t get what one was saying. Communication is something I struggle with.
I internalize things and at times I can take something the wrong way. God gave us two ears and one brain to listen twice as much. Perhaps if we took time to listen to people to hear what they have to say then the world could be a better place.
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