So much of what we see on social media is curated and controlled. We all know that life is crazy and chaotic and that is what is below the surface. Not many people want others to see that side of their lives. However, it’s what makes a person more interesting. Seeing warts and all makes for a better story because it means you are trying to learn and grow. I think people hope they can be something different online at least. I cannot pretend to be anyone else. I am not that good of an actor.

Over the past few years, I have experienced loss, we all have. We experience things that change who we are. I used to be an overwhelmingly positive person and a people pleaser. Now I am a little jaded and kind of grouchy. You know that is OK because people and life change daily. I experience depression and anxiety and I am getting help with that. More men need to do that sort of thing.

None of that changes my desire to be kind. Being a jerk to me is not an option but it does mean I reserve the right to be flawed. Everyone struggles and it’s not cool to add to that struggle.

My friends, I try to be who I am in my physical existence in my virtual existence. Don’t expect perfection because there isn’t a perfect person who posts to this blog or on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Being genuine and real means something or at least I hope it still means something.