I am distracted, we are all perhaps distracted about something in our lives. So much is going on in my head that I am not listening well. Being distracted impacts my relationships with important people in my life. I think we could all agree that we are over stimulated with all sorts of things coming at us. Even when we aren’t using our electronic devices we still find ourselves distracted. Life seems to be more complex than in years past and I am not sure it will get better.
Too many of us are so burdened that we aren’t paying attention to the people that really matter in life. Maybe I need to cut a couple things out or perhaps I need to alter my behavior and learn to prioritize what I am doing in any given moment. I am wondering about how getting older makes it easier to be distracted or not? My friends what is your experience with paying attention, is it harder for you as time goes on, what do you do to focus on the main things in life.
No, is a complete sentence. It’s also a powerful word I find difficult to say. No is a small word with big impact. It can mean letting someone down. No means no but it also means having control in your life. No can be an habitual thing where you aren’t willing to do anything for anyone. As a people pleaser I find it hard to say no because I am wanting to do everything for everyone. Saying no to anyone is not always in my nature. In the world of sales there is a unique challenge to turn a no into a yes. That requires technique and communication and getting people to talk themselves into something they have said no to previously. Much of this is about conflict resolution and taking people seriously. Sometimes it’s just about your preferences and doing what you want to do.
In life we need boundaries. Buffer zones between people and situations that could do harm. Personal relationships need boundaries too for emotional and physical safety. Some relationships can become inappropriately intimate especially when there are attachments in the mix.
Bloggers need boundaries too. Connections are made daily and there must be respect of the personal situations of one another. I think we can be too open online and that can become a problem in an era when people aren’t so kind. As friendships are made through social media we have to be careful about how friendly we can be.
Form your own best practices but have fun. Don’t let yourself get into a jam online.
It’s sad when family and friends have ailments of the heart and soul. Anytime there is suffering it is a reminder of how fragile we really are. When one person hurts it involves others too who are concerned and care for them. There are conditions people battle for years and require intensive care. Some friends of mine carry a heavy burden and I ask for God to help them through this. May we all have peace in our hearts and soul.
For me aging means needing my glasses to use my cell phone and falling asleep before the Late Show comes on. As I get older sleeping through the night is harder. Of course getting up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom is common. Getting older means facing ones own mortality too and no one wants to think of a time when they die. Now I am 46 and there are others who have lived much longer and have more stories to tell so I need to keep things in perspective. Life goes on and I need to enjoy it as long as I can. I enjoy my life and I pray it will get better as we go along. Getting older isn’t for the feint of heart.
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