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Yeah, I Am Religious..It’s Just One Part Of Who I Am.

My friends I am a religious/spiritual person. I do go to a great church on Sundays and try to live the best life I can with God’s help. Granted I am not perfect and I don’t think I am better than anyone else because of my faith. I get comfort and clarity and company from being in fellowship with other believers. It also helps me be a more open and loving person in my life.

I hope you know I am a kind person and know I respect others for being observant to the belief system that makes most sense for them. There are also folks who choose no faith which is as personal a decision as anything else. This is just one part of who I am among the other fun stuff you see in my posts.

Grace and peace to each of you.

Unfriend/Unfollow, It Happens

There comes a time in everyone’s social media life where they must unfollow/unfriend people on various platforms. Facebook is one of those places where it is a chosen community of people you are connecting with and sometimes their posts can either be repetitive and sometimes offensive. Granted there no two people who agree with each other 100% of the time, and that is OK. It’s only when those people ramp up the rhetoric, whether it be political, religious or social commentary that can be very negative, that you have to make that decision on your connection status.

In America we are in the midst of an election campaign season where we will go to the polls in 2016 to elect a new president and other federal offices. Canada just completed that cycle recently and sometimes being on social media can be challenging when it comes to politics because it can be personal. It’s the constant barrage of posts that come from friends who post mean spirited things that can test your relationship status.

Religious and social commentary can be divisive too. We have all seen the issues such as faith, gender, orientation and the like that people fall on different sides of. To me it’s OK to disagree on some things, but you know it’s amazing to see the venom on your screen from people who you thought were reasonable and kind. It can be disappointing to see comments that are out there for the world to see and you wonder what is the source of their ire.

I know there are people who have unfollowed/unfriended me for various reasons and that is OK. Perhaps this is an opportunity for all of us to examine our friendships and who we are as individuals who have a right to feel the way they want to about all the stuff going on in the world. It is OK to be sad when your friendships change, that is life.

Then there are sports rivalries and that can be just as contentious as politics, religion and social issues. Especially on rivalry days.

Unfriending, Unfollowing, it happens and you have to move on. Sometimes you just have to cut ties.

A Great Philosophy, Words To Live By

A fellow blogger has this as her philosophy…

Keep my chin up, my mug full of coffee, and have a day-by-day perspective.

I agree with this. Doing these things can help one get through the day. It’s a simple thing to keep ones chin up, have a mug full of coffee and live life in the moment. This is pretty good stuff!

Thanks Andrea (https://andreaweidel.wordpress.com)

Rambling About Paying Attention

I am distracted, we are all perhaps distracted about something in our lives. So much is going on in my head that I am not listening well. Being distracted impacts my relationships with important people in my life. I think we could all agree that we are over stimulated with all sorts of things coming at us. Even when we aren’t using our electronic devices we still find ourselves distracted. Life seems to be more complex than in years past and I am not sure it will get better.

Too many of us are so burdened that we aren’t paying attention to the people that really matter in life. Maybe I need to cut a couple things out or perhaps I need to alter my behavior and learn to prioritize what I am doing in any given moment. I am wondering about how getting older makes it easier to be distracted or not? My friends what is your experience with paying attention, is it harder for you as time goes on, what do you do to focus on the main things in life.

No, There is Power In That Small Word

No, is a complete sentence. It’s also a powerful word I find difficult to say. No is a small word with big impact. It can mean letting someone down. No means no but it also means having control in your life. No can be an habitual thing where you aren’t willing to do anything for anyone. As a people pleaser I find it hard to say no because I am wanting to do everything for everyone. Saying no to anyone is not always in my nature. In the world of sales there is a unique challenge to turn a no into a yes. That requires technique and communication and getting people to talk themselves into something they have said no to previously. Much of this is about conflict resolution and taking people seriously. Sometimes it’s just about your preferences and doing what you want to do.

Rambling About Boundaries Online

In life we need boundaries. Buffer zones between people and situations that could do harm. Personal relationships need boundaries too for emotional and physical safety. Some relationships can become inappropriately intimate especially when there are attachments in the mix.

Bloggers need boundaries too. Connections are made daily and there must be respect of the personal situations of one another. I think we can be too open online and that can become a problem in an era when people aren’t so kind. As friendships are made through social media we have to be careful about how friendly we can be.

Form your own best practices but have fun. Don’t let yourself get into a jam online.