I believe a problem with the ability to relate to people of color comes from a place of not living with people of color in the same neighborhoods, attending the same places of worship and attending the same schools. People will choose where they live based upon the perception of quality and that often means some sort of economic and to a degree cultural segregation. On Sundays there is segregation in houses of worship mostly because of cultural reasons. I think the ability to relate to someone is living in common community and to think of each other as peers. Walking in someones shoes sometimes requires walking where they live.

If we chose to live in real community it would look like a rainbow with some shades of gray. Living together means living together in all parts of life. Sympathy and empathy are powerful things and you get that through experience and the willingness to do something new. I hope I made sense here.