I fear commenting on stuff a lot of times because I am left-of-center on many issues. Everyone has the right to their opinion but when yours goes against many of your friends it can become a problem. There are times I need to keep silent so that friendships can remain. I don’t know but I don’t have a lot of really tight friendships in this life so sometimes I have to keep silent.
Maybe I don’t fall for the lemming thing and I have chosen to think on my own. Maybe not having a great number of friends has freed me to form independent opinions on things which has informed me about the world in a deeper way. On Facebook and even Twitter there are debates of the day which has raised the volume of rhetoric and venom among people who have been life-long friends. Perhaps I choose to be different and the voice of what is fair, just, inclusive and loving.
So do I comment or choose friendship…that is a tough one.
You reflect my thoughts, many of my thoughts don’t go along with friends- maybe we have just grown apart. After much anticipation I gave up commenting which also resulted in my losing interest in them. My learning: its better to have friends who bring the best out of you rather than make you struggle to fit in 🙂
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If it was a true friendship you could do both. I know exactly what you’re talking about and it’s so discouraging
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Just keep being yourself. If people can’t accept you or your opinions, they don’t need to be in your life. You have your wife, dog, family, etc. These are the most important people and they accept you.
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*People and pets/friends I should say.
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I have been in such situations .. I always voice out my opinion . Some friends stayed some didn’t . If I don’t them who exactly I am then I’m simply cheating myself and them .
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Can’t you comment in a friendly way and still tell your side?
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Comment. Opinions are like assholes; everyone has them and they all stink. Be who you are. Your true friends will respect that.
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I don’t comment. I would rather not start a war and have others jump in to defend the comment. Ignore it, my suggestions.
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We can go through life never knowing who we truly are or the difference we make to someone’s life. What difference are we making to our lives or our friends’ lives if we cannot be ourselves? That is why I comment. But I always comment with respect, and remembering the rules of social etiquette. And I protect myself by not talking getting too mouthy on someone else’s status.
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We can go through life never knowing who we truly are or the difference we make to someone’s life. What difference are we making to our lives or our friends’ lives if we cannot be ourselves? That is why I comment. But I always comment with respect, and remembering the rules of social etiquette. And I protect myself by not getting too mouthy on someone else’s status.
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I’m usually careful about what I comment on too – being a Brit married to an American and living in London I find my decidedly middle-of-the-road (on this side of the ocean, anyway!) opinions/ views on religion/ race/ gender/ politics can often prove exceedingly contraversial on the other! So although your opinions may well be ‘left of centre’ for the USA, that judgement is in itself dependent on America’s ‘centre ground’ often appearing to be weighted rather more towards the right than here in the UK – so for my part, I find your viewpoint refreshingly normal! Um… and hopefully I’m not offending anyone by expressing my thoughts/ feelings on this particular occasion – apologies if so 🙂
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Agreed. At times I stay silent. My mom called it “picking your battles”/ 🙂
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