Do you ever wonder about people who write out long essays in posts about the most innocent things? Think about how much time these folks spend coming up with responses that seem to be disrespectful and angry.
It seems Facebook, Instagram and Twitter where this happens most. One could do a demographic analysis and come up with conclusions that can affirm a profile of people who seem to do this sort of thing the most.
It’s amazing what they say and makes you wonder if it’s from a place of fear or facts. Don’t dive into the comments, if you do it might leave one sad and bewildered.
Comments can inspire, enlighten, inform. They can also demoralize, hurt and wound. Sometimes a comment can reveal more about your readers than the post reveals about you. We have all made comments that in our head sound innocent but when it’s on a screen it looks like something else. We can use our comments to lift someone up or to tear them down when they don’t need to
The old saying if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all applies but is often not followed. What you say has weight and consequences. Everyone has said dumb things they regret and wish they could take back but it is also hard to put toothpaste back in a tube. Be sure to leave comments but choose words wisely. It’s always something about those comments.
I have been on the Internet for a very long time and I have commented on many, many posts. However you have to pick your battles. Not everyone on the web will agree 100% and there is real temptation to comment on something you don’t agree with but in this day and age but you do so at your own peril. Facebook is a minefield of articles and posts that can provoke one into an argument that can get nasty if you let it.
Fighting the good fight is a noble thing and its necessary at times. Ask yourself this, do you want to chime in on something where everyone else will come down on you for your opposing opinion. This is a lesson I have learned the hard way.
People who are always looking for a fight I think do so for attention or perhaps to poke a stick at those who they want to challenge. I am guilty of that but I am trying to get better at it. Words can heal and damage with the same force and we all have a choice to make on what we want to do with our words in the world.
Some things are worth the pain of provocation of a reply but others aren’t worth the keystrokes or the heartache.
Sometimes we say things we shouldn’t to important people. Perhaps there is a comment on a blog or Facebook we shouldn’t have posted. We all say things we don’t mean but are very sorry for. “Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid” is off the Big Bang Boom record by Hall and Oates from 1984.