I am a very emotional and social being. As I have gotten older I find friendships harder to hold onto for one reason or another. Like anyone I crave a tribe that is inclusive of all genders and orientations. Being a sensitive man is hard because there are years of conditioning that men aren’t supposed to be that way.
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Some Sunday Wisdom


Grace and peace my friends today.
Yet Another Theme Change…
I wanted to do something different than just a blog and to challenge my ability to take a stock theme and customize it to the way I wanted it to look. Using the Sela theme that is somewhat light and airy I tweaked it using some CSS and gave it the Tony touch. The blog functions as a website as well as a blog so I have the best of both worlds. Let me know how you like it and is it easy to navigate. Thanks for putting up with my changing stuff around. As long as you can read it on all your devices that is what I am going for.
And Wait For The Feedback
Whenever you post anything you then wait for some sort of response to what you have created. Sometimes the wait is very short and other times the wait is very long. One should never expect 100% positive comments to ones post but when a person comes in hot with some really negative space feedback then it kind of jars you makes you feel like perhaps you should have said something different.
Here’s how I respond to negative space feedback…I delete it. Yep, delete immediately. This blog is here to promote positivity (but realism definitely has its place here) and I want to make that point clear for everyone. Yeah I am a sensitive person that’s why I take time away from Facebook when things get too hot there. My blog is a refuge, a haven and I don’t want to respond to negative stuff.
I will never get personal or attack anyone however I do reserve to be righteously angry about injustice, hatred and that sort of thing. When you write something personal and meaningful to you I think there should be some safe space and perhaps saying nothing is better than going negative.
And yet we all wait for the feedback and hope that its good, constructive and helpful.
The Mystery Of Instagram Followers

Have you ever wondered how people find you on Instagram. People out of the blue who have no other connections to you such as “real life” or blogging or something like that. I know tagging can lead people to you but why they follow you is a mystery.
Haircut Friday

Time to get my ears lowered.