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Friends, I have been told I am a positive person and that is what people like about me. Here’s a little secret, I am not always a positive person. Some days I have my moments when I am cynical and kind of mad at stuff. Being a genuine person means being genuine about how you feel about things.

There will be times when I will rant and will share some of the negative things brewing in my head. Much of the time I am going to look at the bright side of things but sharing the dark stuff gives some balance and hopefully makes me more relatable to the person who isn’t feeling it today. It’s what you have when you are an idealist like me. Emotions are a strong thing and it requires balance.

Now I have to figure out how to be mad when it comes time to be mad. I am horrible at being mad just like I am horrible at being sick. It’s funny how this all works.

Tonight we went out for Japanese food and I noticed a group of kids from a local prep school. All of these kids were just out for a meal together and to have some fun. It got me thinking about the squad of friends we have as we go through different parts of life. Friendships come and go through different parts of our lives and along with that the people we hang out with can change. I didn’t have a “squad” really until College where I found the friendships I wanted in junior high and senior high.

As we get older our squad changes in participation, size and meaning. It seems that it gets smaller until we have a circle of friends who become a second family. When you meet your spouse/soul mate then you find yourself wanting to spend more time with one special person. I think we all enjoy friendships but our desires change and our life circumstances bring different people into our lives. Friends are not always friends forever but as some have discussed friends are temporal like life itself.

Even the famous friends above had to find their own way individually and eventually went on to do their own things in their lives. Phoebe, Chandler, Ross, Rachel, Joey, Monica and Ross were tight but they didn’t last in the way we got to know them.

In thinking of that group of friends and school mates I saw tonight it made me think of the future they have ahead of them and the comradary they are establishing. This is a special time in their lives and they should treasure every minute of it. These relationships come only once in ones lives.

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