I am a people pleaser, It’s a part of who I am. Acceptance is something many strive for because we want to be liked. I know what having a low self-esteem is like and I want to be sure others in my life are accepted for who they are. We live in a world where people are seeking community and connections so acceptance is vital to making them feel wanted and needed, I know I am.
Love and inclusion are in my mind essential parts of being human. As Sally Field once said in her Academy Awards acceptance speech “you like me, you really like me” and that is so important to be liked. I would also say don’t do something against your better angels in order to fit into a crowd that would be harmful, that’s not good for you.
We all have habits. Things we do as a routine. Life is a pattern of activity where people can be predictable. A pattern can be a blueprint in making something too where you have to abide by boundaries and directions. Following a pattern can lead to success or lead to being in a rut.
There are a lot of things in this life we need to resist. Sometimes we can’t help ourselves though. To resist that second piece of cake or slice of pie takes will power. When you resist temptation it shows you have some strength and willpower. However in current events you have to resist people who seek to divide and to build walls. You have to resist people and systems that resolve to do harm and to promote ideas and ideologies that are not a part of ones values. I resist power that seeks to deny everyone the right to live their lives and to love who they choose. Resist destruction, resist being afraid, resist allowing yourself to things that can harm you and others.
Modern conveniences have made doing things almost automatic. Everything from paying bills to doing our mundane activities. We don’t like to have to think about stuff but when we do we like it to be as labor free as possible. I just wanna live my life as carefree as possible which. Not everything can be on auto pay or auto renew. We have to use our brains and to not be so lazy. However when we can we have to take advantage of the new fangled things to keep us going and to simplify an already complex life.
It’s amazing how hard it is to do something simply. We all like to complicate things unnecessarily. You take a look at the most simple things and you wonder how that was made or conceived. Some of the best things in life are just a few humble things thrown together that can make something spectacular. Simple doesn’t always mean boring though. Keeping things simple can be a challenge though.
You know you are overworked when you see a lot of overtime on your check. People work more and harder to keep a roof over their heads. It’s not unusual to see people with 2 or more jobs. They are burning the candle at both ends and in the middle. Being overworked can lead to burnout and worse. Life is a constant struggle to make ends meet so being overworked and sometime over stressed in so many parts of life. The notion of working smarter means working harder because you have to. Maybe if more people did their part there wouldn’t be so many overworked people in the world.
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