The Wrong Way

In the effort of being nice have you ever said something that might have been taken the wrong way? I sure have, probably a result from overthinking it and being overzealous. Not everyone comes from the same place and that can cause some communication issues. Our cultural and our language make up who we are as people and when you come from different places it can be challenging to be understood. People have the best intentions but can do things that make folks uncomfortable or perhaps put off.

Being gracious, understanding, slow to anger and having some empathy as well as sympathy are great things to have for every occasion.

Figuring people out without being judgmental is difficult but sometimes first impressions is all you have to go on. So how you relate to people initially can be a real challenge. Offending people by some poorly chosen words can be very harmful. Every experience with meeting new people can be a learning opportunity and hopefully you can have a shot at making new friends.

I think being friendly sometimes means making a fool of yourself. It is that experience that can make our lives more interesting don’t you think?

Author: Tony "T-Bird" Burgess

Hi there, my name is Tony Burgess from Chattanooga, Tennessee, USA. I am a believer, bleeding-heart, idealist and blogger. I'm married to Laura and Cody is our dog. Daily I work for a blood bank. My blog is where I chronicle and curate the sacred, serious and silly things in my life. I am a member of The Episcopal Church. Thank you for connecting with me. Grace, peace, and love!

8 thoughts on “The Wrong Way”

  1. I once made a problem in my own culture! I waves at a stranger and that can be taken as a sign of disrespect because I might be “flirting” since women tend to be…uhh….reserved in our culture? A little quiet about certain things? So, it’s not just within one’s culture, it applies everywhere.

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  2. I do that all the time. I dunno why people get upset when I say they have on an ugly tie and another one would look much better with their shirt. some people are too thin skinned.


    1. I agree. I am at times too thin skinned but maybe that should help me be more sensitive to others when I am the one being not very nice. Thank you for your feedback!


  3. If I’m not going to say something nice, I won’t say anything at all. If I genuinely like something, I will compliment the person. I think it’s rude to tell someone their clothes are ugly or they look bad, especially if they didn’t ask. Now if someone asks me, I’ll give them my opinion..ugly or not.


    1. I don’t have a lot of challenges. I have a few awards I haven’t tended too yet. I just need some time. I am still getting to know folks and the WordPress platform so that can slow me down a bit.

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  4. I think that different social media venues develop different cultural norms. It’s also very hard to know someone’s intentions when you can’t see body language and facial expression. There is a learning curve.

    One strategy I’ve adopted is to invite people to ask me my intention. In most instances my intentions are benign but my tone of voice shifts through the day–and this is sometimes confusing to people. Really, self awareness is crucial..

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