We as a society and community can get so mired down in the serious things of our lives we forget to enjoy the fun stuff. There is nothing wrong with listening to a pop song, enjoying a guilty pleasure or eating something you really shouldn’t. Right now we live in a world that is full of sadness and hate that we need those moments of silliness, levity, grace to remind us of our humanity. I read a lot of posts and some of those I have written about the world being a dark place to be but we need to remember how to bring some light into the darkness.
Perhaps we should not try to grow up so fast that we forget the fun that can be had today and every day. My friends the world isn’t entirely bad, people aren’t always out to get you and perhaps pursue excellence in being a living person who smiles and laughs in equal measure to crying and frowning. Enjoy the fun of being imperfect, broken, human. Be alive today, you only get one shot at this life.
Sometimes you can breathe and be yourself when you are alone. We all have a game face to put on in public. So many people would love to be authentic when they are among family and friends but often they have to play their part, know their role, to be the person others expect. This might sound cynical but its often true. It takes special people to allow you to be the person you want to be without ridicule. When you are alone you are responsible for caring for yourself and maybe a pet if you have one. I suck at being alone because I have an identity as a husband and that requires being in the company of the one I love. Being yourself when you are alone is something you can do but it can be a challenge too.
A blog is a tool for expression, a way to share your feelings. I find it very therapeutic and recreational. For many their blog has become their voice when they have something to say.
Deleting your blog really solves nothing. The problem with deleting is that an important part of your life goes away. On a platform like WordPress where there are millions of other voices you have to be picky in who you listen to and how you relate to those people. Not everyone will be sensitive and caring online. I have discovered its best to restart and be selective to who you want to connect with.
I still very much believe in being original, myself and to say what I have to say myself. So with that being said I want others who do the same.
So to all those considering deleting your blogs, think again, resist that. Your blog can be your friend.
You never know what to say to someone who isn’t feeling it on any given day. Stuff is going on in their lives they are trying to get through but finding it tough. Saying “have a great day” sounds like pouring salt into a wound but you know there is a flip side to that. Maybe that person needs some encouragement to turn things around. Perhaps they need to know that there is light at the end of a dark tunnel. What they are going through is hopefully a short-term event and offering some hope is always a good thing. Being kind to someone in a unfortunate situation says something about who we are and is an opportunity to lift the load on someones heart and soul.
So everyone with all that being said…HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Humans for the most part are social creatures. Perpetual isolation goes against our nature. Granted some people like to be alone but even then the need for interaction is good for them. We cannot think of ourselves as an island out there in a vast ocean. Every human being is connected in one way or another through something. No matter who you are there are times when you need a warm embrace that reminds you that you are indeed special. We all need that company that helps us get through life when tough times come. People are informed by the conversations they have with others who share their experiences. Learning from others is important to help us not make the same mistakes they have made. Everyone needs somebody, somebody to hold. Being social is being very human indeed.
A lot of bloggers write about narcissism. Admittedly I don’t know much about the issue other than it’s a issue where someone holds a higher view of themselves which causes other behavior issues. I can see there are people whose ego and self-worth can be a serious issue on many different levels. We see many people in the culture who are narcissists and those people need to put themselves on a level above the average person. We see people who have a difficulty relating to others because of their view of themselves.
It makes me wonder if those who blog about themselves or posts selfies are just wanting to share their lives or perhaps it is something more. Under the definition of what narcissism is I could be a narcissist or is there something different here? Those who write about the subject seem to have experiences that have deeply impacted their lives. It is a subject I honestly didn’t think much about until I started seeing it written about extensively on blogs I read.
We take a look in our culture and its pretty obvious who is stuck on themselves and they cannot see the condition and lives of others. Maybe those people need some course correction and to have their mirrors taken away. Life is too short to be stuck on ourselves. Maybe life experience from another person would help a narcissist come to terms with their behavior. There are some folks who enjoy being stuck on themselves. It’s all strange and curious. Once again I don’t know much. I just hope I don’t fit the definition.
We as a society and community can get so mired down in the serious things of our lives we forget to enjoy the fun stuff. There is nothing wrong with listening to a pop song, enjoying a guilty pleasure or eating something you really shouldn’t. Right now we live in a world that is full of sadness and hate that we need those moments of silliness, levity, grace to remind us of our humanity. I read a lot of posts and some of those I have written about the world being a dark place to be but we need to remember how to bring some light into the darkness.
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